When we are born we are all subject to two basic laws: the law of gravity and the law of basic and existential angst. On the law of gravity there is little to say because everything is obvious and easy, and you do not believe, without trying to jump back to land on the ground. On the existential angst that qualify some points there.
If life is a journey, imagine for a moment you stand on your road of life. Forward opens up a world unknown is represented by the fear of to-come or fear of the future. If you look back, is the fear of losing the known, and went, and if you realize that instant, be afraid of losing control when or what is different, fear of confusion.
At first glance we may think that humans are extremely vulnerable because it is full of fears. If we reflect a bit, we see that if I had no fear of the future never enable them to face it, if I had no fear of losing the fight for anything ever met and if not afraid to never seek to clarify confusion. People, despite the fears are still getting married, having children, signing mortgages, etc..
Against this background, the most interesting is that it generates "a tense field" between the basic fears and the need to address. This represents the inherent human being who is living in a constant conflict and continuous decision-making (if I'm here I can be there). This can be summarized in a basic axiom of any therapy, whether or not online: "BE AFRAID OR PROBLEMS IS NORMAL, WHAT IS NOT PATHOLOGICAL face" (the actions speak louder. We have to deal with things and not worry about them, etc, etc).
We all know that the anguish and anxiety is very bad press (especially for professionals) and always appears to have taught us that, as with fever must end it immediately. Big mistake! The thing to do is put that anxiety to work for us.
And that means? Then there is a signal anxiety (not pathological) that tells me I have a problem. This anxiety acts as an alarm bell that warns me about some difficulty or fear. If for example, I am in bed and I can not sleep because tomorrow I have to give a lecture. Perhaps this anxiety is warning me that I have not prepared well enough and if I hear that voice and get up to go over, sure that when returning to bed I fall asleep like a baby. Actually, that signal anxiety has helped me prepare and cope better with my fear of failure at the conference tomorrow (fear of the future).
There is also another pathological anxiety that is called traumatic anxiety, which is not afraid of anything concrete as before, but are afraid of fear. If we imagine the anxiety like a thermometer where the maximum is at 10. Anxiety serious signal of 1 to 5 and is not pathological (no fever), but from 5 traumatic anxiety is that if it would have "fever".
Finally say that there are many patients who behave like that person who is driving his car and suddenly the water temperature gauge goes to the red zone. Instead of taking into account the warning signal that indicates a problem somewhere in the engine, what it does is cover with indicator hand and say "I do not see there." In that case, it is safer than a few kilometers later we see him standing in the ditch with the engine seizing and fuming.
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