The relationships we build with people to some extent determine our standing in the world. Therefore, it seems important to emphasize, in one of the relationships that have a major impact on our lives, as this link is so close, so intimate and so beloved: of parents and children.
In recent years there has been talking about the various methods is important to carry out the methods of discipline and education for children. Some parents are confused and perplexed, how they failed to maintain a firm stand when disciplining their children.
It seems that the experts are beyond the experience of being a parent, and who forget, the most common sense, common sense. Some scholars of human behavior talk about the importance of responsibility, other parenting Some more about methods and ways of communicating with children.
The reality as I see it, probably all are right, and are those who can guide us when we feel lost in this way of parenting. However, these techniques or ways that we propose are some suggestions that do not necessarily determine our experience. That is, every father and every mother, need to assess your situation, the characteristics of their family environment, and ways of being and the behavior patterns of children.
In fact there are no better or worse ways to educate the child depends on the circumstances, the nature of the parents, the situation they are facing at present. Also his personal history as well as forms and manner as each conceives of education.
In order to offer our children a quality education and upbringing, we have to have certain aspects that will probably lead us to achieve this:
A. - The children are not an extension of the parents. They are independent people who feel alone, they think for themselves and who have a personality that stands out from birth. They are special.
When we do not understand this situation we get frustrated because children do not do things as we want. Definitely not, will do it according to what they are and can, according to their age and abilities.
I do not want to misunderstand me, of course, we need to guide them to learn habits and limits, but definitely can not do what I want, need and desire.
B. - The parents are just facilitators of child development. This means that they are not our property, that acts of abuse or violence, not justified by any reason. Besides that they are people who are in a process development where they have to strengthen their self-esteem, self-concept and personality.
Yes we as parents constantly criticize, instead, to show the way to do something better, then surely we are training children resentful, unable to feel that they do something right, moreover, that his personal experience and will develop self-concept of distorted way.
The skills, abilities and learning, will always be supported on the trial and error. Or maybe, you learned all the first? Of course not, also made mistakes, also was frustrated, also gave its cates, also scolded, and perhaps had to get things done countless times until eventually things went, just the what you could do.
C. - Parents need to be an authority for their children. Today, parents seem to have trouble finding ways to discipline, on the one hand, they feel guilty when they are noticed, and the other the offset a lot of material things to feel happy.
The discipline, boundaries and the authority of parents over children is not negotiable. There are various ways to establish this form of authority. Some parents show their authority and rigidity are not able to be flexible and tolerant of situations and circumstances. Others are too lax, and are unable to correct, discipline and establish specific and clear limits. There are other parents who oscillate between the two styles, sometimes become rigid, and others, totally lax.
IT IS IMPORTANT to reflect in their forms and ways to establish authority with their children, thus, perhaps, may "realize" that is what you do is working and what not, on their relationship with them.
No relationship is so significant and important as this wonderful and great value for parents with children. However, the nature of it, at times it becomes confrontational and full of disappointments.
How is it, what this little person, by which I live, I sleep, work will become as irrelevant to me, plus I unleashed the most sublime feelings and sentiments, and also the most unpleasant.
In a way we can deal more with those aspects of our children that make us feel comforted, proud, good parents, but when unleashed feelings like anger, frustration, helplessness, envy, claim, then we do not like both ... We feel we're the worst parents and estmos doing it very, very, bad ...
The parent-child relationship, like any human relationship, is subject to the conflict. However, the vast majority of parents aspired to and maintained the expectation that the relationship with their children, should always be harmonious. Big mistake! All Parents want their children to be happy.
Of course we all want that happiness, success and victory for them, but that does not mean they have to be with the smile on his face all the time. Sinn But when we see angry or frustrated, we worry, we become anxious. And worse! Todita We lay blame.
It is necessary to consider these aspects that determine the life between parents and children. We need to train men and women of good, responsible, able to face the world with robust tools that touches them and they will live. Let us not lose sight , which generations of our children, will be the adults of tomorrow ...
We need to stop encouraging children helpless, unable to meet its own obligations, because today's parents have been given the task of solving all ... For each skill that the child can do and you still do, it is becoming a person who does not use its resources and develop them to become skilled Paraquad ...
Solve everything leads us to be spoiled children, who feel they deserve, and that further training of character and personality, they are flattened ...
Plus it's important to convey our love for them, it also means that, sometimes not ...
This is a call to parents to reconsider their ways and means to educate, so that they meet socially with their fair share, educate their children and give children good for society ....
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